What was Hardest was What I Needed Most

Before those emotional breakdowns at twenty-three and twenty-five years old, I had not seriously addressed the abuse effects—distrust, anxiety, perfectionism, depression, and, underlying them all, shame. After the second breakdown, I began a journey into emotional and spiritual wholeness. I fought the most intense battles from 1977 to 1987. What was hardest was what I …

I Am Still Waiting

  At 18, I loved a poem by Lawerence Ferlinghetti:  “I Am Waiting.” I was waiting for a way out And for someone to hold me for despair to take a hike for the tears to stop for the sun to rise for somebody to tell me who I am for an apology and an explanation for something …

“Why can’t God just make my life better? Right now.”  In twenty years of hearing clients talk about their difficult lives, I’ve heard many variations on that sentence. In the middle of a divorce, a man wonders why God didn’t save his marriage. He’d prayed for five years for his wife to fall in love …