Trauma Thoughts

  My husband’s cancer, diagnosed in 2009 and treated over the next two years, did not traumatize me. “What do you mean by that,” you might ask. “Wasn’t it intense and scary and didn’t you cry?” Yes, yes, and yes. But genuine trauma overwhelms our coping abilities and leaves unprocessed feelings stuffed away. We walk away …

God’s Context

  Sold by his jealous brothers into Egyptian slavery, jailed on false rape charges, and forgotten by one who could help, Joseph, favored son of Isaac, absorbed the suffering. He let that suffering humble his heart. In humility, he accepted that his story is a small part of a God-sized story. After years in jail, God …

Letter to a Lost Parent

  When a parent dies who was not the parent we needed, we may feel a very complicated grief. If we’ve mourned the loss over the years of his/her life, the grief will be less. If we have continued to hope for a loving, attentive father or mother, grief will be much more difficult and …