No Fault Rejection

As we pulled out cash to pay for a camping spot, a guy on a golf cart pulled up to the open door behind us. “Nope, that’s not a camper.”

The desk clerk had just agreed that our Dodge van, with its electrical connection, was an acceptable camper for their private campground. He’d explained that some people camped in mini-vans and ran an electrical cord out a window, sleeping on the seats. That wasn’t allowed. We’d assured him that our handmade camper van with its beds, electrical outlets, and portable toilet was a real camper.

As the guy in the golf cart sped off, my husband, Jerry, turned toward the door.

“Don’t bother. That’s the owner. He’s made up his mind. I’m sorry.” Red-faced, the clerk handed back our forty dollars.

After Jerry and I pulled on our seat belts in our unacceptable camper, we looked at each other.

“What is this all about? It does not make sense. Why have so many campgrounds refused to let us in?” He frowned as he started the car and pulled out of the gravel parking lot onto Highway 1. We’d been travelling up the coast of California as part of a three month retirement trip and many places had rejected us.

“I know. I guess I can sort of see why, in Malibu, they didn’t want surfers staying in their cars. But it’s hasn’t been just Malibu. That one the other day that only took commercially built campers less than ten years old.” I stared at the white-capped waves.

“They just want the rich. We’re too poor for them.”

“I guess. Sure, our van is fifteen years old, but it still looks good.” Jerry’s anger made sense. “But, you know what, this must be what minorities feel all the time. Rejection for no rhyme or reason.”

“Yeah, it’s like something’s wrong with us. Nobody has a real reason. They just don’t want ‘our kind’.” Jerry glanced at me. “There’s something to write about.”

After that, we began to avoid places that, in our campground directory, said ‘no tents.’ If they allowed tents, we knew they’d take us. But we had to pay for a motel in Portland, when the only place close enough to mass transit said, ‘no tents.’

Like no previous situation, this experience gave us, a white sixty-something couple, an unexpected lesson in empathy. I got the tiniest glimpse of what minorities experience regularly. I’ve heard our elegantly dressed African-American friend describe being followed around women’s clothing stores. I’ve listened to my Sri Lankan friend say, “The white schoolmasters couldn’t believe I and my brother could be so brilliant.”

Now I understand just a bit of my friends’ pain and anger.

Jesus, I thank you that you always understand. You know, you see, and your justice will prevail.  (Matthew 12:20)

 

 

Three Month Retirement Honeymoon: Best of List

On our 9300 mile, three month trip this spring, we stayed a week in San Francisco, a week in Portland, and a week in Seattle. Each had their pleasures and unexpected satisfactions. The ride along the Pacific Coast Highway also brought unanticipated delights. Many of these experiences, with enough time and money, you could also enjoy.  Some experiences we can’t recall quite where they took place, or they were unreplicable interactions with locals.

But here is a list  of specific “best of” experiences that you might also find wonderful:

 

Meal: The High Tea at the Empress Hotel in Victoria British Columbia. Second: McCormick and Kuletos, San Francisco

Best dessert: Chocolate cake, Space Needle.

Best brownie: Chef Suzie on the Square, Victoria, British Columbia

Best soup: Chilled Raspberry at the Sweetwater Restaurant, Jackson, WY

Pastry: Cinnamon Crown, Pearl Bakery in the Pearl District, Portland, OR

Best Tea: Jasmine Tea, San Francisco Japanese Garden Tea House

Best clam chowder: Scomas Restaurant, San Francisco; also best sourdough bread

View:  Space Needle, Seattle. Second: Pacific Heights, SF

Beach: Cannon Beach, Oregon:  tidal starfish, anemone, tufted puffins!

Transit system: Portland

Public art:  Sculpture Park, Seattle

Most interesting neighborhood: Houseboats on Lake Union, Seattle. Second: Canals in Venice, CA.

Most different than Midwestern architecture: Taos and Santa Fe, New Mexico

City park:  San Francisco,  Yerba Buena Gardens

Best public musician: saxophonist at Sculpture park, Seattle, playing jazzy version of  “Jesus Loves Me”.

Small art town: Port Townsend, WA

Day: San Francisco Saturday, Ferry Building, Farmer’s Market, and Art Fair

Fine craft gallery: Highlight Gallery, Mendocino. Second, Wild Hands, Jackson, WY

Best affordable glass artist: Rick Hunter

Weather: San Francisco

Best saying on a card, bumper sticker or other: “I love you every day. Except yesterday. I was little annoyed with you yesterday.”

Most unexpected sight: number of old Volkswagen vans on the west coast.

Most unexpected experience: young people in Portland giving their seats up for us old people.

Most unexpected nature event: clams shooting water out of the muck in Bodega Bay, CA

Best inland nature experience:  Redwoods on Avenue of the Giants in Northern California. Second: The Hoh Rain Forest, Olympic Penninsula, WA

Best music: Chinese stringed instrument played in the Chinese Garden Tea House, Portland

Best weekend art market: tie between  San Francisco and Portland

Best outdoor art fair:  Streetfest, University District, Seattle, May

Best public garden: Butchart Gardens. Second:  Japanese Garden in San Francisco

Best shopping: Montana and Oregon–no sales tax!

Weirdest law: Oregon–can’t pump your own gas

Best church: Seattle Vineyard

One area I’d seen on a previous trip, 21 years before, was better than I remembered. The gardens at the Barnyard Shopping Village in Carmel, California, continue to delight. Trumpet vine, bougainvillea, antique roses, Peruvian lilies, and many other perennials among hundreds of annuals flowed between the brick pathways.

How often is something that we thought wonderful the first time better than we remember?

Travelling for three months was in many ways like everyday life with it’s ups and downs. But the best moments were truly a taste of heaven. We’re very grateful.

Jesus, thank you for all those tastes of heaven you give us. Please give each one of us a small glimpse of heaven today.

Yes!

“On the other hand, all the images and thoughts we’ve been given are positive.” It was last Tuesday morning. Jerry and I were out for a drive in the country before his noon oncology appointment. It’s been six months since treatment for his “moderately aggressive” prostate cancer ended. The prostate-specific antigen (PSA) test results we’d hear would define our future.

I’d been fearful that morning, my characterological anxiety leading to primitive emotions. “I know it’s not true, intellectually, but if God doesn’t heal, it feels like it means he doesn’t love me.” “If this is spiritual warfare and God ‘loses,’ what does that mean?”

In one sense, I was okay with whatever happened. I’ve been through so much, I know God can carry me through anything. Even if God ‘lost’ this battle, he’s already won the war. Jesus’ sacrifice defines God’s love, not whether Jerry lives or dies.

It helped my struggle, that morning, to remind myself of Jerry’s image during recent prayer at the International Healing Rooms in Spokane: “I saw God strangling the cancer cells.” I remembered the sentence, during worship, a few months ago: “He has twenty-five more years.”

But it was a challenge, that morning. Some mornings are irremediably challenging. We’re anxious, scared, full of fearful images. I’d have loved it if I could have just leaned my head on Jesus’ chest, resting. I couldn’t. His perfect love has not yet cast out all my fear. (1 John 4:18)

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And yet, God had hold of me. He’s committed to each one of us who walk with him. Our sinful anxieties do not change his commitment to us. Glory to God.

And, glory to God, PSA is undetectable. No cancer cells left. Yes.

Father, we are grateful. And beyond this particular grace, we are grateful for your unchanging, eternal commitment. Thank you.