Over All

“What to write, Lord?” is usually my Friday morning prayer. This morning, my thoughts are many:

As I woke up, I thought about the relationship between sex and violence. Both penetrate physical boundaries, one in love and one in hatred. Not sure where that thought is going, but the similarity of the opposites intrigues me.

As Jerry and I took our morning walk, Tyler Perry’s comment on Oprah yesterday, about his physically abusive father, came to mind. “If I’d beat you one more time, you could have been president, like Obama.” I’m glad Mr. Perry knows his father is wrong.

Today’s USA Today includes a special supplement  about the need for global women’s rights. The right to be physically whole rather than mutilated, the right to be a child rather than a wife, the right to self-determination. Massive pain. Among others, a group called the Elders, including Jimmy Carter and Desmond Tutu, are working on some of these issues.

And the weather is finally breaking in central Illinois. Birds were singing this morning. Walking, we got overheated in our down vests.

Jerry just interrupted me to say, “I know you’re working, but you need to step outside. It’s 60 degrees.” In winter, does spring ever sound too good to be true?

Valley of the Fallen Pictures, Images and PhotosAnd yet, spring is here today. Snowdrops are blooming. The tiny bit of snow remaining in the front yard from the snowblower pile should clear out by noon.

And, after cancer and cataracts, we’re healthy enough to walk two miles every morning.

And, over it all,  amidst the jumble of evil and good that makes up the world, a good Father watches and waits and works.

 

Father, may we watch and wait and work with you.

 

 

Yell and Tell

Are you the parent of a young child? Or a teacher or health professional who works with little ones?You’ve probably thought about sexual predators.

Do you know that those who take advantage of children’s innocence study how to set it up, how to draw the child’s trust, how to threaten them so they are afraid to tell? We also need to study these adversaries. Without overly dramatizing the threat, we can teach children they have permission to speak.

Many will not be pulled into this battle, but many will. The statistics are sad and perhaps more than you know:  up to thirty percent of girls and fifteen percent of boys are sexually violated before their eighteenth birthday. And those are the reported cases. Some of us never told any authority.

The threat needs to be prepared for. Like we warn very young ones not to run into the street, we need to warn older ones against this danger.

Sara Sue Learns to Yell and Tell is the second in a series of children’s stories designed to help open a conversation. Written from a strong Christian point of view, the story will be most helpful to Christians. An Amazon search yields very few books, Christian or secular, written for children on this topic.

Children who, immediately after a violation, tell and are believed fare much better than those who proceed in silence, believing the abuse to be their own fault. Whether you get this book or not, do talk to your children about how to be safe and that it is okay to yell and tell when something is not right.

This book came to my attention when I joined their promotion, next week on Amazon. If you buy a copy between 3/1 and 3/3, you can access more than fifty offers from various partners, from Charisma magazine to my own book, Trading Fathers. See the offers here: http://www.nogreaterjoy.org/go/amazon-blitz/

Father, please give us the wisdom and will to protect the children.

 

Remember the Miracles

This week, Carrie Fisher, along with her mother, Debbie Reynolds, told her story on Oprah. Most famous for the role of Princess Leia of the Star Wars movies, Carrie suffers from serious mental illness that requires regular electroshock therapy as well as daily psychiatric medication.

She described how the shock therapy “blows apart the cement” in her mind, allowing her to function. She talked of thoughts out of control, embarrassing behavior, and, despite a productive professional life, decades of coping with manic-depression, now called bipolar.
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Watching, I remembered.

I recalled my own behavior with friends in Kansas City, attending the 1977 National Conference on Charismatic Renewal. Thoughts out of control. Embarrassing behavior. Jerry flying out to drive back with us.

Several days, then, in a locked psych ward. An electroshock treatment. Heavy-duty drugs. Diagnosis: Manic-depression, a life-defining disorder.

But the memories are long ago and far away. As if they happened to someone else. And I remembered again the miracle.

God has touched my biochemistry. It’s been more than thirty years since I took medication. My life has been defined not by mental illness, but by increasing emotional health. After recovery from that psychotic episode, I got a Masters in Social Work and saw clients for twenty years. Now I write and speak on emotional health.

God has raised my head and filled my days with light.

What miracle has he done for you that you’ve forgotten? Has he given you a spouse who has spoken life to you? Has he healed your cancer? Perhaps, like King David celebrates in Psalm 40 and me, he’s pulled you out of the miry clay, putting your feet on solid ground.

Let’s not forget.

Dear Papa-God. You are the God who saves, the God who brings us into wholeness. May we remember your work today.