Tech Boundaries

Karen has not left the building for three days now. I'm okay, though. Really. I'm evenly balanced between introvert/extrovert. Time alone is good time and people time works, too. We have a regular Thursday night dinner with our next-door neighbor that's expanded to include two other friends. They all braved the near-zero temperatures last night. I got out of the computer chair long enough to cook. I pulled out frozen turkey in broth from Thanksgiving. Adding peas, julienned summer squash, and seasonings made a soul-warming soup. With cornbread, made from grain Jerry ground, and pumpkin custard with whipped cream (light), it satisfied our hunger. The company satisfied my extrovert side. She was getting a little hungry.

Not that I couldn't have satisfied that hunger in a dozen different ways. There are all kinds of people I could connect with online, if I wanted to make the effort. Chat rooms abound, I guess. I've hardly investigated them. I could call friends to chat on the phone. I could text, email, or fax. Actually, the technology surrounding me is a little overwhelming. Facebook, for example. I'm "on Facebook," as they say. Only because I got an invitation through Facebook a couple of years ago and didn't know I could have responded without joining. So, I'm on, but I haven't had time to understand it. I think I've set this blog up now so entries will get sent to Facebook. We'll see.

How are you doing with technology? Feeling overwhelmed yet? Aren't all these options and possiblities just a little too much? What an opportunity for us to establish clear boundaries and not let ourselves get overrun. If you have strategies to keep technology in it's place–servant rather than master–post a comment, will you?
Looking forward to hearing from you. And, hi to my friends on Facebook, if indeed you can see this. 🙂

Dream Writing

Do you carry a dream? One that hangs around the backside of your mind? It's been there for years but you've never paid too much attention to it. It seems fantastical, beyond imagination. Now and then you invite it into your living room and have a little chat, but you always, somewhat wistfully, send it back to where it resides in the darkness.

Pink veined orchid, cropped 72 dpi
Maybe it's a dream of organizing a drama club at the high school where your daughter goes. But you don't have a degree–just some experience, years ago, when you were in high school. Or you'd like to do watercolors of orchids. When you walk into Lowe's the purples and yellows of the phalaenopsis call to you. Does the idea of making jewelry excite you, but you're afraid people will laugh at your attempts, or worse, won't notice at all?

For thirty years, I carried a dream of writing–maybe longer. In my senior year English class in my small high school, the teacher publicly praised my semester thesis paper. In other academic and work settings, teachers and supervisors complimented my reports. So I carried around some sense that I was a good communicator. But the idea of writing my own story lingered in the background. Until five years ago. In January of 2004, I first picked up a pen and wrote. Without knowing a thing about writing for publication, I put together a genre-busting compilation of poetry, journaling, and devotionals. That was the beginning.

This morning, I signed off on the text for Trading Fathers: Forgiving Dad, Embracing God. My memoir will be out in a few weeks. Sometimes those dreams that hang around the edges of our hearts are God's dreams. Sometimes we need to take them seriously enough to invite them into the living room for a long discussion. What, exactly, are my fears? What are the obstacles? And whose dream is this, anyway? Mine or God's?

Father, You are a God who gives dreams and who brings them to pass. May your dream be made manifest in our lives.

A Quilting Lesson

On Tuesday, my daughter Jenn and I spent the morning sewing.
She had fabric left over from a previous quilt that I pulled out while she cut
strips for her next one. She has a sharp eye for color, so her leftovers went together
easily. I sketched a simple box on box pattern. After choosing a background
piece, I randomly started cutting squares—two inch, one and a half inch, one
inch, and half an inch. I eyeballed them into a symmetrical pattern. When Jenn
looked at my design, she shifted a few pieces here and there into a less
predictable style that I liked better.

 

At the sewing machine, I stitched the stacks of fabric
squares. Again, I just estimated the line placement. By the time I finished them,
two out of the nine crossings on top of the half inch squares crossed closely.
The other seven caught the little square in the middle, but imprecisely.

 

Precision, in quilting, is not essential. Yes, the best quilters
are precise. But no quilt is perfect. That’s what the people in Paducah, Kentucky told us once when we visited the Museum of the American Quilter's Society. Quilts are celebrations of color and shape. The colors of my little nine by nine and a quarter piece please me. (I planned a
nine by nine, but miscalculated when I pieced the back.) The shapes draw my eye
in a pleasant arc. I don’t notice the irregular stitching. Quilting is a
forgiving art. I will enjoy this little colorful refreshment hanging on the
wall next to my computer.

 

God quilts together the pieces of our lives. He arranges the
colors and shapes into a pattern than pleases him. He rejoices in the process,
forgiving our imprecision and imperfection. When we’re done, he will gather us
all into his great museum of glory. What a refreshment of joy that will be!

 

Father, help us forgive ourselves our own imperfections and
imprecision. At this beginning of another earth cycle around the sun, let us
know your forgiveness in a fresh way.